First of all, want to know what your nakshatra is? Try this nakshatra calculator
Now, read this brilliant article on compatibility according to the Jyotisha Hindu astrology system.
In Vedic Astrology, relationship compatibility is based upon the Moon and Nakshatras. The Moon is the mind and feelings of the individual. It is the Jiva, the idea of separate existence and the Ahamkara, the ego. In essence, the Moon is our very identity as opposed to the Western Astrological view that the Sun represents the ego. In Vedic Astrology, the Sun is the Soul, because the Sun is constant. It never stops shining. The Moon, however, takes the light of the Sun, as the mind takes the light of the soul, and waxes and wanes. In other words, the Moon CHANGES. The Sun does not. Therefore, the most appropriate planet to represent the individual is the Moon.
The Vedic compatibility techniques are very simple, yet very profound. Since they are based upon the Nakshatras, these techniques are exceptionally ancient and come directly from the Rishis. Many will say that these techniques are outdated and do not work in modern society because relationships between men and women have changed enormously. While the cultural norms of relationships have changed, the dynamic of two people interacting with each other have not, and these techniques apply just as well today as they did thousands of years ago. What is a relationship? It is two people relating to each other and the needs and emotions of this exchange never change. As you will see as you read further, these techniques are so insightful into the human psyche, their profoundness has not diminished in the least.
A relationship consists of two people relating and for that to happen there must always be masculine energy and feminine energy, whether it is a man and a woman, two women, two men, a teacher and student or a parent and child. There is ALWAYS a male/female dynamic happening. When male/female dynamic is stated, please throw out all concepts of what male/female is. Masculine energy is dynamic, initiating, steadfast energy and feminine energy is receptive, accommodating, changeable energy. Masculine energy wants to be loved for what it does and when it does good, it feels good. Feminine energy wants to be loved for what it is, and when it feels good, it does good. An example would be when one person talks, another must listen, otherwise you have two people talking at the same time, in which case they are not relating, or you have neither one talking, in which case there is no relationship. This is not to say that in a heterosexual couple, the woman is always receptive and the man is always dynamic. I am just explaining what masculine and feminine energy are and how they are always at play in creation and in relationships.
Laura Barat is a full-time practicing Vedic Astrologer in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado. She is a graduate of the American College of Vedic Astrology and a regional teacher for Dirah Academy International. She has studied under the renowned Vedic Astrologer, Ernst Wilhelm.
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